Like a plant needs constant watering and sunlight, a marriage also needs continuous nourishment for it to grow and flourish. Strengthening your marriage can be done if you will consistently do simple things that prove you love and value each other.
Here are 10 tips you should consider towards happier marriage:
- Make it a habit to “thank you”.
Being appreciative of your spouse can make a big difference. It shows that you are recognizing his or her efforts, big or small. Thank him for fixing the sink. Thank her for putting the kids to sleep. Be sincere when you express gratitude and that will surely brighten your partner’s day.
- Keep the courtship alive.
Courtship doesn’t have to end after marriage. In fact, it’s the very thing that can keep your marriage alive. Write a short note and leave it on the table. Send sweet text messages. Give flowers even when there aren’t any special occasions.
- Engage in meaningful conversations.
Talk with each other and spend quality time doing it. Pay attention when your partner begins speaking about topics he or she is interested in. Listen and share insights. Discuss any topic under the sun such as arts, movies, music, politics, sports, and others. If you have a common interest, then that would be a good place to start.
- Do things together.
Shop, watch a concert, exercise, or even clean the garden together once in a while. These things will give you the chance to rekindle the relationship and simply have fun together.
- Be updated with each other’s activities.
Of course, we don’t mean spying on your spouse or something but being sincerely interested in what he or she has to do for the day. This way, you could express support whenever needed such as when he has a big meeting, when she has a job interview or anything. At the end of the day, talk with each other how the day went.
- Respect your spouse in public.
Making fun of or embarrassing your partner in public is a big no-no. Instead, it is always better to praise your spouse especially in the presence of friends or relatives. Moreover, show kindness in small and simple ways such as opening the door for her, putting your arms around him, and other sweet gestures.
- Quit complaining.
Sometimes, there are minor annoyances that would better be ignored than mentioned. Don’t like some of his or her habits? Accept it and move on. You’d only stress yourself and – hurt your relationship – if you’ll keep on bringing up little things that aren’t really worth it in the long run.
- Ask politely.
Choose your words when asking favors from your partner. No one likes to be bossed around by a spouse.
- Express your love often.
Saying “I love you” shouldn’t be reserved for special occasions. You can express your love through many different ways such as text, e-mail, letter, or – the best way of all – in words. Ideally, you should do this every single day.
- Listen to your spouse.
Your partner will always have suggestions for your improvement. Be open-minded because these are honest encouragements from a person who loves you, sees your potentials, and wants you to be better.
via: readers digest